Writing your own vows is a special way for couples to personalize their wedding ceremonies and since elopements are all about personalizing your day - I am a big fans of couples writing their own vows. You will find me trying to photograph those moments and wiping my tears because I'm a sucker for some heartfelt vows. Keep reading for our top tips on writing vows that you will cherish long after your elopement wedding day.
Below are some tips to consider if you're thinking about writing your own vows:
Discuss vow writing with your partner beforehand. Writing vows is personal and the two of you may have different expectations on what you want your vows to be. Have a discussion with your partner and get on the same page before you start writing. This may also help calm some nerves because you'll both have an idea of what each other is going to write or talk about. Make sure you also discuss how long the vows are going to be! Talk about if you are thinking of writing just a few meaningful sentences or a 3 minute heartfelt statement, talk about if you want to include some humor or keep it intentional and talk about a deadline for when you should have your vows done.
"In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” Maya Angelou.
Don’t wait until the last minute! A lot of couples are so busy with wedding planning and life, in general, they neglect the vows until the last minute. This makes their vow writing rushed and stressful, especially if they are writing them on the night before. Trust me, this is far more meaningful and stress-free when you get them done ahead of time! I recommend a month before or no less than two weeks.
Your vows are sacred promises. Keep in mind what vows are, they are promises you are making to each other. You will want to talk about why you love your partner or what you love most about them - in fact don’t forget to say “I love you” in your vows! But, also you want to make some promises about how you want to show up and treat each other in your relationship. This is the real reason you say vows to each other.
Don’t read them off your phone! For the love of everything good, please don’t spoil your photos by reading your vows off of your phone or a crumpled up piece of paper or a napkin. You do not want to have your vows immortalized in your photos. Either handwrite them in vow books that look great or get your vow cards printed. I can provide these to you! Just ask. When you use vow cards, you can frame them after the elopement! So special. Trust us, you are going to want to keep these.
Get inspiration online if you need it. There are so many places you can find examples of personal wedding vows if you need inspiration, but make sure whatever you find - you still make it your own.